Mother Figures
Thursday, 28 April 2011 @ 22:47
"Paradise lies at the feet of your mother" - Nabi Muhammad S.A.W
This phrase said by the Prophet (peace be upon him), really means a lot to me. It kind of tells us how we should always respect our mothers. For me, I can't live without mine.
I understand that not all of us have mothers, but we most definitely at least have a form of a mother figure or someone we look up to similarly in our lives. These people are the ones who shape us, and inspire us. We should have respect for them, because they do deserve it. From the first breathe we took, they always looked out for us. From the first step we took, they always made sure we had support so that we do not fall. From our first success, they always made sure that we humbled up so that we can achieve more than what we did. All in all, they're the ones who push us to strive, and at the same time, pour out their hearts for us in whatever they do.
My mother has always been there for me, through thick and thin. She knows many of the things that go on in my life, and she always tries to help me out whenever she can. She gives me advice, comforts me and all. I respect her for who she is, and one day I want to be a mother just like her.
Mothers do a lot for us, it is really important that we shower them with love every single day. Many a times, there are a handful of us who often complain about our mums and such, and personally I feel that this is wrong. I agree, in general people do get to us, but it is important for us to always stand up for the person who has done so much for us. We shouldn't bring them down in any way. Like take this peribahasa for example,
Mothers do a lot for us, it is really important that we shower them with love every single day. Many a times, there are a handful of us who often complain about our mums and such, and personally I feel that this is wrong. I agree, in general people do get to us, but it is important for us to always stand up for the person who has done so much for us. We shouldn't bring them down in any way. Like take this peribahasa for example,
Hutang emas dapat dibayar, Hutang budi dibawa mati
This peribahasa basically means that we can pay for our materialistic debts, but whatever good deeds that have been done to us, will forever last. Whatever your mum does to you is out of love, whether you deem it as good or bad, so it is only right of you repay her love with more love! Yes, sometimes you may get angry at her, that is unavoidable, but you must understand she has her weaknesses too. Maybe something happened that ruined her day. Why not talk about it with her? Or if she's more of the quiet type, just leave her too cool down first.
Anyway for the ladies (and I guess this would apply to men too as they'll be fathers), you're gonna become mothers one day. Think about how you would want your child to treat you. Think about what you would want to share with your child. (Well this is what I hear people say, so you may think otherwise, and I understand that!) And think, why not you do it with your mum? You may say, oh, we come from different times, and she may not understand what I'm trying to say. Why not start with something small, like school for instance. May be boring, but you know, even the boring-est of things can be the start of a close relationship, because you may get to know things you haven't before. After all, your mum went through school too. At least it gets you talking. And think about how happy she'd probably be when she feels that you're opening up to her. :)
Bottomline of this post is, love your mother, cherish her, because at some point in your life, she's going to leave you, so make the most of every second you have with her. It's something you're never going to get back!